Are You Too Ashamed Of Your Anger To Take Action?

By  •  February 7, 2013 at 9:29 pm  •  1 Comment

If you want to deal with your anger but are too ashamed to take that next step read on. We get many calls from people wanting to deal with their anger. They speak with us, but they are afraid to take the ultimate step of booking on the course that will change them for good. Sometimes this is because part of them is comfortable with and used to their anger. In the main though, it is shame.

Radio 4 Saturday Live had a fascinating woman talking about her experience as an angry woman who perpetrated domestic violence against her husband.

Her anger ranged from shouting and screaming to kicking and slapping her husband to wrecking furniture. This went on for eight and half years until she finally realised it was never going to go away.

That’s the thing about anger, unless you deal with it, it does not go away.

Florence took Anger Management training with Mike Fisher, the founder of British Association of Anger Management and it changed her life.

Florence’s story is interesting because she was so affected by the training that she chose to train with Mike Fisher to deliver his courses.

What was truly compelling about Florence’s story was the shame she carried around with her. She was, on the surface, a mild mannered person who was in control of her life. Her anger incidents were weeks and days apart. They ranged from once in 3 months to once a month. After each incident she felt deeply ashamed and as a result she did not feel she could tell anyone.

What really resonated with me was how she felt when she finally made it through to booking on a course. It was not until she was able to sit in a group and talk about what she had been doing that she felt that sense of relief. Once she had admitted it, she was on the road to dealing with it by using the learning she gained of us.

This is why we get many calls from people wanting to deal with their anger. They speak with us, but they are afraid to take the ultimate step of booking on the course that will change them for good. Sometimes this is because part of them is comfortable with and used to their anger. In the main though, it is shame.

On our courses we spend the first hour or two getting to know each other and agreeing the ground rules. These are vitally important. If you don’t feel safe and able to work in the group then you will miss out on vital learning. We get huge amounts of positive feedback  but the area that is most appreciated is making people feel safe.

If you want to deal with your anger but are too ashamed to take that next step call me and I will listen. Remember, the longer you leave it, the worse it gets. The worse it gets the more you are hurting those around you. For them, and yourself, take the biggest step and book on the course. It could change everything.

If you want a confidential chat about your situation call Calm People West Midlands 07950344658 and ask for Pauls or Calm People East Midlands 07850614042 and ask for Julian

If you want to know more about the anger management, stress management, and emotional resilience courses run in Derby & Birmingham call the above numbers or click here

About the Author:

With more than 20 years experience working in challenging corporate environments and dealing with change programmes, Julian has gained extensive experience in counselling, facilitation and training techniques. Julian has an MBA from Nottingham Business School, has trained with the British Association of Anger Management and is an experienced and qualified practitioner of established coaching tools such as Myers Briggs.
Julian has built Calm People into an organisation that encompasses everything from delivering workshops on how to identify and deal with anger, to helping individuals to combat stress by improving their emotional resilience. The company’s continually evolving mindset has led to them developing an innovative training product for HGV and Bus/Coach drivers, technology assisted wellbeing packages, and a unique and exclusive Executive Resilience Retreat.

Whether you are an individual seeking to cope with challenging circumstances or an organisation looking to support cultural change Calm People can help you.

 

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